OPINION: Losing links with friends is natural

WHEN I was shopping the other day, I ran into someone I knew from when I lived here as a teen.

We had the usual conversation about what we are up to nowadays, how many husbands, kids and animals we've had. As we bid our farewells, we both said the obligatory "We'll have to catch up sometime."

The thing is, both of us knew that we wouldn't be catching up with each other in the near future, or if ever.

It made me think about all the friendships that have come and gone in my lifetime.

Well, I didn't think of all of them, because after living in three different states and at least seven different towns, you seem to lose track of friendships.

Even the friendships that you thought would be long-lasting at the time may have fallen off the radar.

As a mum of two kids, I also find that friendships can be circumstantial. It's not to say that I don't like these friendships, but they are the type that I know when my son finishes soccer for the season, or my daughter no longer wants to go to ballet, the friendships that I have formed with those people will become obsolete.

I've never had a problem making friends, and sometimes friendships can come from the most unique circumstances.

Before now, I never considered myself a "school mum". You know, the kinds of mums who have nothing better to do than sit around the school fence and gossip together while they collect their children from school.

But my son asked me one day "Mum, why can't you come and sit in the school yard, and talk with the other mums?"

At the time, I think I scoffed at the idea, and probably made the excuse that I don't have time to gossip.

Well one day, I took the plunge and got out of the car and decided that I'd see what these mums talk about.

What I didn't expect was that I would find a wonderful and broad range of women, whom I class as close friends.

I never did the "mothers group" thing when I had my children, because I was busy, either in the police force, or writing books.

But now I understand the support and happiness that these friendships can bring. I now have a bunch of girlfriends in my life who think of me on my birthday and make me feel special.

The friendships I have now are precious and are worth every bit of time that I invest into them.

Trish Hamilton is an author based in Hervey Bay.

Topics:  friendship opinion

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