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OPINION: Time to pull plug on Facebook ‘friends’

Carlie Walker decided to let go of 100 Facebook friends that she seemed to have existing connection with.
Carlie Walker decided to let go of 100 Facebook friends that she seemed to have existing connection with. Tracey Joynson

I WENT through all of my Facebook friends recently and deleted about a hundred of them.

I had no idea who these people were.

We had no mutual friends and I couldn't recall when, where or how we had connected in the first place.

I didn't pay close attention so there are probably more random friends on my list waiting to be deleted.

Or more likely, we will just continue to be friends and ignore each other, which seems to be my way.

Apparently there is a Facebook phenomenon where people are failing to distinguish Facebook friends from "legitimate", real-life friends.

How is this even possible? Surely people talk to their real friends - hopefully even face to face now and again.

I know there are people out there who probably have hundreds of Facebook friends and still feel like the loneliest people on the planet.

I don't think online contact can compensate for real, face-to-face contact and relationships.

Facebook has also become a great avoidance tactic.

I have had friends who didn't know their relationship was over until they saw it on Facebook.

Their loved one had changed their relationship status to single - a pretty big hint that there was trouble afoot.

What happened to real communication? To knowing who your friends are? And I'm not talking about knowing who your "real friends" are, I mean genuinely knowing who they are - like, any tiny personal detail with them, or even having met them, even once, in real life.

I think it's time to start tweeting.

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