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IVF couple opens up about losing their unborn twins

Samantha and Max Delmege on their wedding day.
Samantha and Max Delmege on their wedding day. Supplied

MILLIONAIRE Gold Coast couple Sam and Max Delmege have spoken of their heartbreak after revealing they have lost their unborn twins.

Earlier this month the former owner of the Manly Sea Eagles and his wife were celebrating becoming pregnant after two miscarriages and four rounds of IVF.

But on Tuesday last week, after reaching the magic 12-week mark, they received the devastating news that one of the twins had died. Two days later they learned they had also lost the second baby.

Yesterday, Sam, 32, told Confidential she and her 72-year-old husband had escaped to Noosa in a bid to come to terms with their loss.

"I was curled up on the floor in a little ball. Max decided it was best just to get away for a while," she said.

The couple found out last week they had lost their second twin.
The couple found out last week they had lost their second twin. Supplied

"It happens to a lot of women, but after trying to have a baby for so long, we really thought this was our happy ending.

"Max and I have been together for seven years and finding out the twins had gone was the first time I've seen him break down.

"It's been a nightmare and it's hard to stay positive at the moment."

Sam, who is a nurse at Pindara Private Hospital on the Gold Coast, underwent a procedure on Thursday, after miscarrying the second twin.

"It was very hard to find out that we had also lost the second baby," she said.

"There was no warning because I didn't have any cramping or blood loss. We went in for tests to find out the sex and they just turned the machine off and told us what had happened.

"We'd started to prepare for a life with two little babies. It's knocked me mentally. We both really need to relax for a while now. I will try again, because my dream is to be a mother, but I'm not sure when yet."

Sam has previously spoken candidly about her four year struggle to conceive, via her blog Team Delmege.

Max, who is already a grandfather, has adult children from a previous marriage.

Sam has since written a blog post about the loss and how she is coping.

"My heart is still hurting so bad, my mind flashes with bad thoughts and nightmares and my body is still trying to adjust back to a normal body with no babies inside," she wrote.

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She said that while in Noosa on Monday she walked into a nail shop and while chatting to the workers she broke down in the chair after being asked if she had kids.

She also spoke about how hard it was to go through the pain of a miscarriage publicly.

"I put myself out there but it's tough publicly going through a miscarriage. I felt smothered, like I couldn't breathe and like my whole world was crashing around me," she wrote.

Sam detailed the moment she was told she'd lost the second twin.

"(I) just cried," she wrote.

"I was shaking, hyperventilating, wondering why life was so cruel. Why me? Why us? What have we done that is so bad? I couldn't understand how my little baby that was just waving at me less than 48 hours prior had decided to leave us also. Another heart that had stopped."

Sam said she wasn't sure of the next step for the couple.

"Do I go again next cycle? Do I have a break? Do I give up for good. This is a decision we will make together with the help of our specialist team over the next few days.

"In the mean time- I am sure my little angels are flying high. Mummy and Daddy are so sad, so heartbroken, I wonder how I will go on when I get back to the Gold Coast. How will I cope to go through another cycle. Physically I know I can. Mentally I'm not sure."

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